I can hear you all groaning right now…
I know how you feel… As mothers, we are always on the go, always doing something for someone and hardly ever get time for ourselves. Well, that is just the point, my friends. We need time for ourselves each and every day. We need those few moments to restore our soul and feel refreshed. We need to fill up our cups so we can pour out into others.
Before we go any further, I will emphasize that I am not implying we deserve time to ourselves. We are not owed this. I am not a fan of the mainstream self care culture out there – this is not what I’m talking about. I simply mean using the first portion of your day well.
I have gone through many years of late nights, and all night long nursing sessions. I have had seasons where I felt I could never catch up on sleep and would likely always have dirty hair. I have tried many different things to try and get in my quiet time over the years. I have stayed up late, I have tried to get in some time during the mid day nap….
But the thing that I found works best for me is waking up before my children…
WHY YOU NEED TO WAKE BEFORE YOUR CHILDREN:
1. You Can Start Your Day With Purpose.
We have all been there. When you wait to wake up until after your kids are up, you start the day in reactive mode. It tends to be chaos and inevitably, things go wrong. People don’t know where they put things, who needs to do what, mom hasn’t had her coffee yet…and so on. By waking up a little earlier, you can start your day proactively and intentionally. You choose what time you will wake up, how your morning will go and what will get done. When you start your day with intention- it’s up to you.
2. You Can Have Some Quiet Time.
I don’t know about you, but I NEED quiet time to myself in order to maintain my sanity. I actually crave it. With 8 children at home, and as a homeschooling mom, quiet time is not so easy to get during the day. The only time that I have found the house is truly quiet and peaceful is early in the morning. I can drink a hot cup of coffee, spend some time with the Lord, read a good book, get some work done, check The Gathering …that time is mine.
3. You Can Be Productive.
I have learned that I am far more productive in those early hours of the day. By mid afternoon, my brain feels a bit fried and it is harder to concentrate. I do not do all of my work during the early morning, but if I know I have something that needs my concentration, I can do it before the children wake up. I get more done in far less time when my house is still asleep. After I have had my quiet time and some work time, I tend to tidy up the kitchen or the school room. Everyone is happier when we start the day with those rooms picked up! It is so much easier to for me to take just a few minutes in the morning to clean up, than to try and get that done when the house is going at warped speed.
4. You Can Enjoy an Un-Rushed Morning with Your Children.
Mornings can be hectic for any family – whether you work outside the home or inside the home, whether you send your children to school or teach them at home. However, when I start my day early, with intention, I am more relaxed when I greet my children in the morning. I have filled my cup, both literally and figuratively. They don’t see me frazzled and on edge first thing in the morning. We aren’t trying to find things at the last minute and I am not not reheating my coffee fifteen times. I am able to spend those first moments with my children, un-rushed and thankful for another morning.
Do you wake in the morning before your children? Why or why not?